please excuse the mess, we’re making memories

this hit home. a very messy one at that. i’ve recently heard on more than one occasion a friend of one my children say that our home is a bit ‘messy.’ it’s hard not to take offense to that. but really, what’s more important – those important moments you get to spend with your children, or those dishes piling up in the sink? honestly, i’ll admit, cleaning is not my thing. and yes, i do want our children to live in a home that is tidy and taken care of – but, pass up a chance to bond with one of our children or snuggle up with a good book – i’m choosing that time every time. i’m not feeling guilty about that, are you? those moments pass far too quickly. i think most parents would agree, it’s time well spent. my house might be messy, but my kids are happy. so please, kindly excuse the mess because we’re making memories.

“Sometimes it comes down between cleaning the house, and taking (our children) to the park. Or spending time having fun with them, or teaching them to read or write. Sometimes I can either do the dishes, or teach our son how to ride a bike, or our daughter how to walk. I’d rather do those things, frankly. I’d rather not be that mom who ignores our kids, and myself, because I’m so busy worrying about what the neighbors might think of our messy house.”

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2014/07/21/i-blamed-my-wife-for-our-messy-house-i-was-wrong-for-many-reasons/

 

Treasure the Moments

‘Thank you, God, for braids before bedtime. Thank you for messy kitchens and legos on the floor. Thank you for noisy dinner times and late-night conversations, for forts, baby dolls, fingerpaint, and bedtime stories. Thank you for broken wrists and shampoo for brunettes. Thank you for teaching me to number my days. And, God, when I forget, please give me a nudge and number them for me.’

This is such a great post from Hannah Keeley. It’s a wonderful (but teary) look at just how fast time passes that reminds us to cherish the moments we have with our children, messy and all.

http://hannahhelpme.com/blog/when-did-i-last-wash-your-hair/

Things kids say: What do you want to be when you grow up?

things kids say

i love spending time with our 5 year old Miles. the laughter is deep and endless. always curious, always questioning, the things he says always brings one of two thoughts to mind – I hope no one heard that!! or I hope someone heard that and could share in the fun. the other day we were driving and he asks with his signature, mischievous, and irresistibly curled grin, “Mom, what do you want to be when you grow up?”

long pause.

how in the world do i answer this question? this isn’t exactly something that someone my age thinks about often. maybe it should be? what am i, really? hmmm, well, (and, you know, aside from the fact that I’m, well, grown up) — after much thought, i’m happy to say that i’ve been so many things in my life up to this point. i list off some things for him as i’m still thinking this over – “a designer, a writer, an illustrator, a teacher, a student… well, I guess I’m very much a work in progress, and I’m very happy that I am. But, out of all the many things I am in a day, the most important is being your mom.” by this time, he is well into thinking about something else, but I hope i at least got across to him that we are so much more than just one thing and that he can be anything he wants.

the best thing about this question is that it shows that we never stop growing and learning and that we are a culmination of so many things that make us who we are. maybe that’s the beauty of it. the future is wide open. the options are endless. we are so many things in the span of a lifetime or even in the length of a day. life is pretty amazing that way.

Life is Sweet

It’s official! My book is finally printed. It is a very special book full of inspiration and life lessons to lift your child up at that very important age when they are discovering who they are. Beautifully illustrated and full of lots of love and valuable life wisdom, it is a must for all of those parents out there looking to instill principles of mindfulness and valuable life lessons into their children’s lives. Please take a moment and take a look: www.lifeissweetbook.com

il dolci far niente… the sweetness of doing nothing

Il Dolci Far Niente

why don’t you? letters to your child on their birthday

why don't you

Let Them Be Little… they grow up way too fast!

Let Them Be Little

inspiring kids: courage

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Am I Ugly? Talking to your children about body image and self-confidence. TedTalk by Meaghan Ramsey

Did you know that more than 10,000 people every month Google the question “Am I Ugly?”…and most of these people are young girls. It’s shocking to think, but the social pressures facing our kids are brutal. We live in a world of airbrushed reality, plastered with images children are mislead to aspire to. What are they supposed to believe? Who are they supposed to believe?

I’m a huge fan of TedTalks and this one really hit home. Pressures mounting on the evolving self-confidence of our children are negatively impacting their lives and development. Who are your kids looking to for inspiration when you tell them one thing and the world tells them another?

Meaghan Ramsey of the Dove Self-Esteem Project talks about how we can help change all of this by educating and talking to our children about body image and self-confidence, by becoming better role models for our children, and by helping to build ‘a world where are kids are free to be the best version of themselves’.

Take a look, it’s worth the listen…

rock your daydream!

rock your daydream kids

When did (to do something) “like a girl” become an insult?

We can’t always be mindful of everything we say. But we have to remember, the things we say to our kids and in front of our kids shape who they become. Words can be powerful, and they can damage us or they can build us up. Choose to inspire them!

never lose your sense of wonder…

NeverLoseWonder

‘The Unique Connection’

A seemingly simple experiment that portrays a powerful heart-warming look at the special bond between a mother and child. What a beautiful reminder at how special life is. It’s hard to believe this is an advertisement for Pandora Jewelry – well done! Definitely a must see… and see again…

Why we should all color outside the lines…

I think as parents we have all been in the situation where our children are producing something — be it a painting, a letter to a grandparent, a special drawing or holiday decoration — and all of a sudden it takes a turn into the land of an unidentified dark cloud or obscure Rothko-esque painting. And whether the child is beaming at you in expectation of his masterpiece or struggling to hold back the tears of not being able to accomplish his vision, it is our reaction that can use this situation to build our child up or unfortunately lead him into doubts of insecurity.

I love this post by Andrea at Stroller Savvy about Why Children SHOULD Color Outside the Lines. It talks about how we should set aside our perfectionist expectations and encourage our children to be and express themselves. Also to take a breath and really think about how our reactions can so easily taint their curiousity and confidence. Then it reflects even deeper into thinking about the big picture of what we really want for our children:

I want him to take risks and be unafraid of failure.

I want him to to express his creativity and individuality without pressure to conform.

I want him to think outside the box without repercussion.

I want him to be spontaneous and have fun without holding back.

I want him to try new things without the constraints of perfectionism.

I want him to act with passion not restriction.

As a parent it can be hard not to reflect our pressures onto our children and let them be free to grow into themselves. I thought this was a great reminder of little things we as parents can do encourage our children and not hinder their growth.

To see the whole article, please visit: http://strollersavvy.com

a letter from your child…

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Their inner voice…

Inspiring Kids Parenting SM

Image copyright © Heather Burket 2015
from upcoming book, Life Is Sweet

you have something very special to share with the world.

Kids Confidence

Affirmation #26

parenting, affirmations, kids, children, inspiring kids, Life is Sweet, Gabrielle Bernstein

Give your kids the best of you…

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Affirmation #3

Affirmation 3