Did you know that more than 10,000 people every month Google the question “Am I Ugly?”…and most of these people are young girls. It’s shocking to think, but the social pressures facing our kids are brutal. We live in a world of airbrushed reality, plastered with images children are mislead to aspire to. What are they supposed to believe? Who are they supposed to believe?
I’m a huge fan of TedTalks and this one really hit home. Pressures mounting on the evolving self-confidence of our children are negatively impacting their lives and development. Who are your kids looking to for inspiration when you tell them one thing and the world tells them another?
Meaghan Ramsey of the Dove Self-Esteem Project talks about how we can help change all of this by educating and talking to our children about body image and self-confidence, by becoming better role models for our children, and by helping to build ‘a world where are kids are free to be the best version of themselves’.
Take a look, it’s worth the listen…
We can’t always be mindful of everything we say. But we have to remember, the things we say to our kids and in front of our kids shape who they become. Words can be powerful, and they can damage us or they can build us up. Choose to inspire them!
I think as parents we have all been in the situation where our children are producing something — be it a painting, a letter to a grandparent, a special drawing or holiday decoration — and all of a sudden it takes a turn into the land of an unidentified dark cloud or obscure Rothko-esque painting. And whether the child is beaming at you in expectation of his masterpiece or struggling to hold back the tears of not being able to accomplish his vision, it is our reaction that can use this situation to build our child up or unfortunately lead him into doubts of insecurity.
I love this post by Andrea at Stroller Savvy about Why Children SHOULD Color Outside the Lines. It talks about how we should set aside our perfectionist expectations and encourage our children to be and express themselves. Also to take a breath and really think about how our reactions can so easily taint their curiousity and confidence. Then it reflects even deeper into thinking about the big picture of what we really want for our children:
I want him to take risks and be unafraid of failure.
I want him to to express his creativity and individuality without pressure to conform.
I want him to think outside the box without repercussion.
I want him to be spontaneous and have fun without holding back.
I want him to try new things without the constraints of perfectionism.
I want him to act with passion not restriction.
As a parent it can be hard not to reflect our pressures onto our children and let them be free to grow into themselves. I thought this was a great reminder of little things we as parents can do encourage our children and not hinder their growth.
To see the whole article, please visit: http://strollersavvy.com
The best inheritance you can leave your kids is an example of how to live a full and meaningful life.
Live your life so that your children can tell their children that you not only stood for something wonderful — you acted on it.
Life is Sweet!
Inspire the hearts of your children, celebrate their childhood, and create a foundation of love and mindfulness that will last a lifetime…
I’m so blessed and thankful for all of the loving support that people have shown me towards my book and my dream of sharing it with children everywhere. I’m 2/3 of the way to reaching my goal of publishing this very special book. I’m so, so close, but I only have 6 days left in my campaign! That’s not a lot of time but I’m faithful that there are so many more parents who share the same love and inspiration for their children as I do for mine. If you haven’t given my book a look, please do — and if you like it please share! It doesn’t take a lot of people to make a difference, just a lot of LOVE!https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/217270085/life-is-sweet
“There is a deep longing in the heart of every child to “make a difference”. They were hard-wired by God to want to do more… They weren’t born to be common denominators or mere faces in the crowd… God didn’t create us to ignore our potential or abandon our dreams. He meant for us to be free so that we could pursue our potential with abandon… Just as God has given us a chance to send our children into the future with a secure love, He has also given us the opportunity to send our children into the future with a significant purpose… He meant these purposes to be developed and realized. Although many people can contribute to this process, it is the child’s parents that carry the greatest potential for influence.“
— from Grace Based Parenting, by Dr. Tim Kimmel
Children need to know how special they are. We are all miracles. Think about how amazing that is. I love trying to help my children understand this — it’s nearly impossible to grasp. Each one of us unique and special in our own ways. Each with a special purpose. Each made in God’s image. The creation of each and every one of us a miracle in itself. Each of us made with similarities, but individually unique. It’s something to think about and appreciate. Such a beautiful part of our life.